Part 1, Session 4 · Personal Growth and Building Confidence

Confidence comes from trying; self-worth means knowing that I have value simply because I exist

Key insights

Confidence comes from trying; self-worth means knowing that I have value simply because I exist。

5.1 The Path to Building Confidence

Where does confidence come from?

尝试 → 反馈（正/负） → 调整/确认 → 自信
  ↓         ↓              ↓         ↓
行动      结果          迭代/坚持    建立

The Four-Step Method

Step 1: Try

• Take the first step
• Don't be afraid of making mistakes
• Gain experience

Step 2: Feedback

• Positive feedback: That's right, keep going
• Negative feedback: That's wrong, make adjustments

Step 3: Adjust/Confirm

• Negative feedback: Iterate and improve
• Positive feedback: Confirm and continue

Step 4: Build confidence

• Find your way one step at a time
• Build up gradually

Examples

"Today I read two pages of a book and could still share the key ideas with a friend."

Result：

• Build confidence in organizing knowledge
• Build up gradually

5.2 Sense of self-worth

Definition

"Sense of self-worth: My existence itself has value; I do not need validation from others."

The roots of perfectionism

Source：

• High expectations in the family you grew up in
• Persistent criticism
• Lack of recognition
• Never getting a perfect score

Manifestation：

• Being hard on yourself
• Unable to accept anything less than good
• Even when praised by the whole world, still feeling inadequate
• Low self-worth

Build a sense of self-worth

Method 1: Heal your inner child

"Keep a journal to get into a flow state and be there for your inner child."

Steps：

1. List things that happened when you were a child
2. Write down how you felt at the time
3. Write down the needs that went unmet
4. Let your emotions flow
5. Be there for that child

Method 2: Build self-acceptance

"My existence itself has value."

Method：

• Don't let others' opinions shake you
• Be certain of your own worth
• "I am who I am, and I'm happy"

Method 3: Move forward in small steps

"Do one small thing each day and give yourself positive feedback."

Example：

• Today I read two pages of a book
• Exercised for 10 minutes today
• Helped one person today

5.3 Awareness and Growth

What Is Awareness?

"Awareness: observing your emotions, feelings, and moods as they change, without judgment."

Awareness vs. Judgment

The Path to Growth

觉察 → 接纳 → 疗愈 → 改变 → 成长
  ↓       ↓       ↓       ↓       ↓
看见    允许    陪伴    行动    进步

5.4 Procrastination and the Ability to Execute

The Roots of Procrastination

Lack of confidence：

• Fear of making mistakes
• Not daring to try
• Lack of conviction

Solution：

"Do it! Experience it!"

Building the Ability to Execute

Steps：

1. Assess the cost: What is the cost of making a mistake?
2. Determine what is acceptable: Can you accept it?
3. Act immediately: Just do it

Core：

"Unite knowledge and action: if you never act, you will never discover the next step."

5.5 Long-Term Thinking

Hourly Worker Mindset vs. Long-Term Thinking

The Compounding Returns of Long-Term Thinking

Warren Buffett：

"Find a long, wet, snowy slope when you're young, and keep rolling your snowball."

Core：

• Continuous accumulation
• Compound interest effect
• The Longer the Time, the Greater the Value

Key quotes

• "Confidence comes from trying."
• "My existence itself has value."
• "Awareness is growth."
• "Just do it!"
• "Only long-term thinking can create a snowball effect."

Practical application

Daily Growth

• ☐ What did I try today?
• ☐ What feedback did I receive?
• ☐ What adjustments did I make?
• ☐ Did I give myself positive feedback?

Building Confidence

1. Try Small Steps: Do one small thing every day
2. Record Feedback: Write down the results
3. Adjust and Iterate: Improve or stay the course
4. Build Confidence: Take it one step at a time

*"Confidence is built one step at a time; self-worth means knowing I have value simply because I exist."*