A compilation of frequently asked questions to help everyone understand and put things into practice
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A compilation of frequently asked questions to help everyone understand and put things into practice。
5.1 On Passing the Test of Attachment
Problem
Q: How do I know I have passed the test of attachment?
Answer
"When you are no longer attached to outcomes, no longer asking 'Have I awakened?', but are aware moment by moment and diligent moment by moment, you are in the process of passing it."
Detailed Explanation
What it means to move beyond emotional attachment：
- No longer clinging to a relationship
- No longer trying to control the other person
- Accepting others as they are, not as I want them to be
- You feel no emotional stir
Misconceptions：
- Thinking you no longer have feelings
- Thinking you are superior to others
- Thinking you can judge others
The right state of mind：
- Being more clearheaded
- Greater compassion
- Being freer
5.2 On Parent-Child Relationships
Problem
Q: How do I let go of self-attachment in parent-child relationships?
Answer
"The evaluation standard: as I wish vs. as they are. Respect your child as an independent individual and cultivate their ability to take care of their own future life."
Detailed Explanation
Manifestations of ego attachment：
- "I'm doing this for your own good"
- Excessive control
- Excessive anxiety
- Making decisions for your child
Ways to let go of attachment：
- Respect children as independent individuals
- Recognize children's underlying needs
- Cultivate abilities rather than control behavior
- Letting children be themselves
Core goal：
"Help children develop the ability to take care of themselves throughout their future lives."
5.3 On Anger and Resentment
Problem
Q: How do I let go of resentment toward those who have hurt me?
Answer
"Forgiveness is not about pardoning others; it is about setting yourself free. Cultivate compassion and understand that the other person may not have had the ability to say goodbye properly."
Detailed Explanation
The source of resentment：
- Love turning into resentment
- Not getting what you want
- Clinging and refusing to let go
The true meaning of forgiveness：
- It is not about condoning the other person's behavior
- It is about letting yourself move on
- Freeing yourself
Giving Rise to Compassion：
- Understanding that the other person is human too
- Understanding that the other person has limitations too
- Understanding that the other person is suffering too
Method：
- Keeping a forgiveness journal
- Practice compassion meditation
- Let go of attachment
5.4 On OCD
Problem
Q: How can obsessive-compulsive disorder be resolved?
Answer
"1. Accept imperfection—pursue wholeness rather than perfection; 2. Practice mindful breathing; 3. Face your true self."
Detailed Explanation
The nature of OCD：
- Anxiety
- Pursuing perfection
- Desire for control
Solution：
1. Accept Imperfection
- There is no perfection, only wholeness
- Allow yourself to make mistakes
- Lower your standards
2. Mindful Breathing
- Return to the present moment
- Relieve anxiety
- Reduce obsessive thoughts
3. Face Your True Self
- Do not suppress yourself
- Allow Emotions to Flow
- Awareness itself brings change
5.5 On Information Bubbles
Problem
Q: How do I break out of an information bubble?
Answer
"1. Read classic books; 2. Actively step out of your comfort zone; 3. Let output force input; 4. Stand on the shoulders of giants."
Detailed Explanation
The dangers of information bubbles：
- Narrow perspective
- Rigid thinking
- Self-righteousness
Ways to break through：
1. Read Classic Books
- Tested by time
- Explain fundamental principles
- First Principles
2. Actively Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
- Explore different perspectives
- Meet different people
- Try new things
3. Let Output Drive Learning
- Do homework
- Share with others
- Teach others
4. Stand on the Shoulders of Giants
- Learn from experts
- Listen to leading figures share their insights
- Avoid unnecessary detours
5.6 About Awareness
Problem
Q: What exactly is awareness?
Answer
"Awareness: Watching your inner emotions, feelings, and moods change without judging them."
Detailed Explanation
Awareness vs. judgment
| Awareness | Judgment |
|---|---|
| I notice that I’m angry | Being angry is bad |
| I observe that I’m anxious | I should not be anxious |
| I see that I’m afraid | I’m so useless |
How to practice awareness：
- Meditate for 10 minutes every day
- Observe your breathing
- Observe your thoughts
- Don’t follow them or judge them
5.7 About Spiritual Practice
Problem
Q: Do you have to become a monastic to practice spiritually?
Answer
"No. We advocate practicing in everyday life; relationships are the practice ground."
Detailed Explanation
Spiritual practice in everyday life：
- Practice in your relationships
- Grow through challenges
- Awaken through suffering
Where Is Your Place of Practice?：
- Parent-Child Relationships
- Intimate relationships
- Workplace Relationships
- All relationships
Not：
- Deep in Remote Mountains and Forests
- Renouncing worldly life
- Detached from worldly affairs
But rather：
- Cultivating oneself in daily life
- Practicing through real experiences
- Growing amid the mortal world
Key quotes
- "Passing the test of love: no longer attached, the heart stays calm."
- "Parent-child relationships: accepting them as they are, not as I wish them to be."
- "Forgiveness: not about forgiving others, but setting yourself free."
- "OCD: embrace imperfection and pursue wholeness."
- "Breaking out of the information cocoon: read the classics, step out of your comfort zone."
- "Awareness: see, but do not judge."
- "Real practice in the mortal world: relationships are the training ground."
Practical Exercises
Self Q&A
- Have I passed the test of love?
- Am I still attached?
- Do I still try to control?
- Does my heart still waver?
- Have I let go of ego-attachment in my parent-child relationship?
- Do I respect my child?
- Control or support?
- Have I cultivated their abilities?
- Have I let go of resentment?
- Do I still hate?
- Have I forgiven?
- Am I free?
*"Doubt is the beginning of growth; answering questions is the ladder of growth."*